What Love Should Be

You think because he doesn't love you that you are worthless. You think because he doesn't want you anymore that he is right-- that his judgment and opinion of you are correct. If he throws you out, then you are garbage. You think he belongs to you because you want to belong to him. Don't. It's a bad word, 'belong'. Especially when you put it with somebody you love. Love shouldn't be like that. Did you ever see the way the clouds love a mountain? They circle around it that sometimes you can't even see the mountain from the clouds. But you know what? You go up top and what do you see? His head. The clouds never cover the head. His head pokes through, because the clouds let him. They don't wrap him up. They let him keep his head up high, free, with nothing to hide him or bind him. You can't own a human being. You can't lose what you own. Suppose you did own him. Could you really love somebody who was absolutely nobody without you? Do you really want somebody like that? Somebody who falls apart when you walk out the door? You don't, don't you? And neither does he. You're turning over your whole life to him. Your whole life, girl. And if it means so little to you that you can just give it away, hand it to him, then why should it mean anymore to him? He can't value you more than you value yourself.

- Toni Morrison

Everyone deserves to be loved in a way that they can still be themselves, do what they want to do, and share the happiness with someone else. We all need someone who understands. Someone who accepts and never judge. Someone who'll listen to you even if you talk for hours and hours. Someone who respects. Someone who never expects.

This is what love should be.

P.S. I hope this reaches you.

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